Pregnant, Again. Finding Help That Made A Real Difference.

Just how much help can Advice & Aid provide someone in a difficult situation? This story, shared from an actual client here, tells the beautiful tale of months of help, hope and encouragement. Exactly what she and her family needed – even down to diapers, a Thanksgiving meal and wrapped Christmas presents!

When you walk through our doors, you have found a friend for the long haul. One that can give actual help for whatever season you find yourself in.


I first came to Advice & Aid in May, 2015. I was a stay-at-home mom of a 7-month-old daughter, and suspected I was pregnant again.

I was pregnant, but it was extremely early, so the pregnancy test had showed negative. Advice & Aid encouraged me to come back in a few weeks and take another test. I came back a month later and the test was positive. The counselor prayed with me for a healthy pregnancy, I watched a video about pregnancy, she offered a free sonogram, and then she invited me to join Bridges, the class at Advice & Aid for moms.

At the time, my husband and I shared one car and lived in a one bedroom apartment. Money was very tight. Going to Bridges gave me a chance to get out of the house, make other mom-friends, learn how to be a better mom, and earn points for baby clothes, diapers, wipes and other needed baby items that, otherwise, I wouldn’t have been able to afford.

At Thanksgiving that year, Advice & Aid gave our family a turkey and all of the sides, allowing us to have a wonderful Thanksgiving dinner at home as a family. Without that help, we would have gone without.

At Christmas, our family received a big bag of wrapped Christmas gifts. We likely wouldn’t have had money for gifts, so this was a huge blessing to us.

Throughout the next year, I continued to attend Bridges classes. I now had two baby girls just 15 months apart, and through simply attending classes, was able to earn points for baby clothes, diapers and essentials for my little girls.

I recently graduated from the Bridges program and am blessed with friendships that will last a lifetime with some of the other moms I met there. I am now the proud mom of three little ones, all under the age of 3! I appreciate Advice & Aid for all they have done for my family!

Learn more about our Bridges program here:
Pregnancy Help You Are Looking For
You Are Not Alone!
Just for Dads: Men Helping Other Men


If you, or someone you know, is in a situation where you desperately don’t want to be alone, then perhaps a visit with us is exactly what is needed.

Simply make an appointment online, and when you come, you will meet with your very own Client Advocate – someone who will walk with you, cry with you, laugh with you, and be there to answer any question you have. For the long haul!

You aren’t alone and real help is just around the corner!

Worried About Being Pregnant . . . Getting Peace of Mind
Unsure pregnancy

Walking Through Our Doors Looking for Help
It was late in the day when two young friends walked over from the abortion clinic next door to our Overland Park Center. Both wanted a pregnancy test, but could not afford one next door. They saw our sign and decided to come here instead. They were very nervous walking into our center.

First Step: Testing
Our Client Advocates offered them something to drink to help put them at ease and took them into separate counseling rooms. They individually shared with the advocates that if positive, they planned to abort as they could not possibly have a baby right now. Each had their own reasons, each couldn’t see beyond their current circumstances, and parenting was a very scary option. The client advocates offered a pregnancy test, as well as STI testing to each client, which they both accepted. While waiting for the results of the pregnancy test, they discussed with the young women their various options.

One young lady’s test came back negative, and the other young lady’s test came back positive.

Next Step: Getting the Information She Needed
The pregnant young woman was offered a sonogram (to determine pregnancy viability), which she accepted. She shared that she was afraid to tell her parents of her pregnancy, and she was unsure how her boyfriend would react to the news. When she saw her baby on the sonogram screen, a new look came over her face, one of surprise and awe. She smiled and asked questions about the development of the baby, and a change was very evident in her demeanor. She was given a lot of support and encouragement, and many resources were also offered. A follow-up appointment for her STI results was scheduled in one week. As she and her friend left, she said, “You guys are lovely!”

The Follow-Up Visit: A Complete Change
When the client returned the following week, there was a visible change in her body language. She almost had a spring her step! She shared that she had informed her parents of her pregnancy, and they were very supportive. Her boyfriend was also very supportive and they have been making plans for their life together as a family.

This young woman almost made a life-changing decision out of fear of the unknown. It was through the support and services of Advice & Aid that she realized that she was stronger than she realized, and didn’t have to go on this journey alone.


Additional Helpful Articles:
I Was Pregnant . . . And Needed Some Serious Help!

When Pregnancy Wasn’t Part of Your Story

Where Do You Go For Answers When You Are Pregnant?


If you are going through a similar experience to either of the young ladies above, you might have seen yourself a bit in either of  their stories. One young lady got the peace of mind she was looking for, and the other – while not receiving the news she initially hoped for – still had a positive ending because of one choice: to walk in the doors of Advice & Aid. Because of that choice, she found help, hope, resources, support . . . all of the things she needed most.

Take your first step today towards taking back control of your own situation. Make an appointment with us.

No pressure
No agenda
Simply the information you need . . . an understanding friend, and hope!

When Pregnancy Wasn’t Part of Your Story
Pregnancy

Stories.

Everyone has a story . . . the story that is their life. Some stories are like fairy tales. Happy endings, fulfillment and bliss seem to hang on to some people. Their lives, while occasionally sidetracked by the unexpected, never seem to experience the deep darkness that others face. This is not written for them.

This is for the woman whose story is shaded by dark colors, disappointment and unmet goals. This is for the one whose story simply isn’t turning out like they wanted it to.

It’s important to understand that, while your story is uniquely yours, it does bear some of the same elements as the stories of others. There are countless women whose story has gone just like yours . . . the unexpected happens, and suddenly, their lives are thrown completely off course. With one small positive on a pregnancy test, all of their life planning and direction seems to be in jeopardy. Their story is suddenly taking a turn that they didn’t anticipate. Fear, depression and a sense of uncertainty flood over them.

Sound familiar? With a life that is completely out of control, it’s easy to see how someone can consider what seems to be a quick, easy way out of a problem in order to get their story back on track.

But what if the story isn’t over? What if the story is just being re-written with a different ending? What if the story is far more beautiful than originally thought? What if, with the right help, the right encouragement, the right people by your side, your story turns out to be one of fulfillment and happy endings?

You need to know Stacie’s story. You just may see yourself some in the beginning of her story. But listen closely – her story ends in a good place . . . and yours can too!

Want more stories from Advice & Aid?
Some have a happy ending . . . some are still being written.
Perhaps you’ll see some of your own story in one of these:

Advice & Aid Stories

And if you wish to have a story like Stacie’s, one where real help, options, answers and support play a big role, the next step is both the easiest – and the hardest – that you will ever have to take.

You simply have to show up.

Take your first step today towards taking back control of your situation. Make an appointment with us. No pressure, no agenda – simply information, an understanding friend, and hope!

Shacking. Small Word . . . Big Consequences
Shacking Up

Shacking. What an innocent-sounding term for something that can turn out to be anything but innocent.

If you aren’t familiar with the term “shacking,” the best way to describe it would be when two people “hook up” for a night, but one slips out, unnoticed, early the next morning. We see it portrayed in movies all the time, usually in a college atmosphere. The characters shack up for a night while drunk, and then don’t remember what happened by the next morning. Often, it’s supposed to be funny. Sounds pretty harmless, right? But what if there are long-term consequences that come from this? Suddenly, it’s not so funny OR harmless.

Obviously, pregnancy and STDs are the first of the consequences that come to mind. And while these are very real possibilities that should never be taken lightly, there is something else that needs to be considered. There is a very real – very serious – emotional aspect to shacking that someone needs to be talking about.

The honest fact is, bouncing from person to person for just a few minutes
of pleasure will eventually leave you feeling empty and meaningless.

Of course, we’re told today that women can do anything they want with their bodies. And they are right . . . we can. But just because we CAN do it doesn’t mean that it is good or that we SHOULD do it.

The point of this is not to sound judgmental, but rather to be a motivation for you. We are here to motivate you to love. No, not finding someone else to love. But rather, learning to love yourself.

Loving yourself means that you see yourself for the amazing, incredible person that God created. Having love – and respect – for yourself is something that no one else has power over. It is yours.

One college student summed up her transformation – and advice – this way:

After hitting rock bottom my freshman year of college from being involved with the partying lifestyle, I was absolutely disgusted with the person I became.

After transferring to (a different college), I decided to change my lifestyle and really fall in love with the beautiful life God had before me. Channel your energy toward your goals, education and people who want to build you up and I can guarantee you will feel so much better.

Travel the world, audition for a role in the play, join an organization or set a new goal to become the best version of you possible. Then when you are genuinely happy with who you are, someone special will come along. When you find another soul who is equally as goofy, spontaneous and challenges you to be a better version of yourself, then that is when you have got it right.

Allowing the right person to enter your own weird little world is one of the most breathtaking things anyone can have.

So girls, you want to truly be in control of your body? Realize that your body is a temple and should be treated with care and respect.

Suddenly, “shacking” doesn’t seem so glamorous after all!


Sometimes, making that decision to respect your body can be a difficult one; especially if you are making a lifestyle change. What you need is a friend to listen to your heart and help you figure out the steps you need to take to change. We can be that friend.

No judgment.
No agenda.
Just compassion and honesty.

An Abortion Story . . . With An Ending Of Acceptance & Love
Abortion Story Ends in Hope

When I was 15 years old I was in what I thought was a serious relationship. I became sexually active and soon found myself pregnant. That’s where my abortion story begins.

I told no one and attempted to deny reality. I was involved in high school sports which kept me in shape, making it easy for me to pretend I was not pregnant. My mother, however, began to notice changes in me. Eventually, she convinced me to make a doctor’s appointment. It was there we both learned that I was in my sixth month of pregnancy.

Reality hit hard that day.

It wasn’t long until I learned that my mother set up an appointment for a late term abortion procedure. She drove me to a clinic three hours from our home, telling the rest of the family we were going on vacation. It was no vacation. In fact that weekend was my worst nightmare; I could hardly believe I was living it.

When the day of the abortion came I thought that  it was my best option. After all, my mother was making this decision with me in mind. I was taken to a room where I was shown on a monitor how my baby looked and what was happening during the abortion procedure. I did not pay attention. I just wanted it to be over. The physical pain of giving birth without any pain relief had me crying out while the doctor was telling me to be considerate of others and stop, otherwise he would not continue with the procedure. I sucked it up, and for that weekend I did not cry. I did not cry at all. Not when I had to give birth to a dead child. Not when I had to come home and tell everyone how wonderful my vacation was. This was never spoken about again.

Denial became a way of life.

My grades in school began to fail. I began to walk away from my friends, my sports, and my education. I was broken and crying inside, yet I was not sure why. After all, wasn’t this the best choice for a single teenager with an unplanned pregnancy? Isn’t your life supposed to just go on?

When I became pregnant again in my late twenties I wanted to have an abortion. I believed I was not fit to be someone’s mother. I believed abortion was the only way out of a pregnancy.

I became acquainted with the people at Advice & Aid. Here, they listened to my story, shared in my tears, and offered me unconditional support. They did not tell me what choice I HAD to make. They simply laid out my options for me, with a kindness and gentleness that I hadn’t felt in a long time.

How it ended

I’m not going to tell you the end of my story. It may be different than yours, and I don’t want you to focus on that. I am sharing my story to simply let you know that I found a place where, at last, I could begin to heal. I found a place that was not judgmental in any way, and that accepted me – and helped me begin to recover from feelings of guilt and inadequacy.

The fact is, no matter what stage you find yourself in – post-abortion, unplanned pregnancy, not sure what choice to make – you have a place where you can talk it all out.

You have a very knowledgeable, very supportive friend here.


If you are interested in reading other stories like this, visit these links:
Nicole’s Story
Kelly’s Story


If you have had an abortion – or are thinking about it – there may be emotions, pain and struggle that are hard to deal with on your own. That’s why we are here!

Every day, we talk to women in that very position. And they are finally given options, help . . . and the hope they need.

You can talk to us at any time. We are waiting for you.

Black & White in a “Shades of Grey” World
Fifty Shades Darker

As Valentine’s Day approaches, many women will flock to their local theater to see Fifty Shades Darker, the sequel to the widely popular film and erotic book series Fifty Shades of Grey. There is a significant irony about linking a holiday about love and romance with a film that glorifies the use of BDSM (bondage, dominance, sadism, masochism) through manipulation and coercion in a relationship.

While the Fifty Shades of Grey series is often categorized as a romance, it actually normalizes a very serious issue in today’s culture: sexual violence against women. Just like in mainstream pornography, the Fifty Shades of Grey series perpetuates the sexual exploitation of women.

The National Center of Sexual Exploitation states, “The popular series promotes torture as sexually gratifying and normalizes domestic violence, particularly violence against women. This type of material cultivates a rape and sexual violence culture and is now permeating our society. With the popularity of this book, mainstream opinion-makers are telling the public (especially youth) that humiliation, degradation, and torture in sex is normal and to just give it a try.”

Where things get grey is when our culture begins to normalize something that we once would have all deemed as wrong. The more culture normalizes sexual violence against women the easier it is for women to accept it as being okay it in their own lives, their friends’ lives, and their daughters’ lives.

What are we teaching the next generation of women when our entertainment contains physical, emotional, and sexual violence? They learn what is acceptable by observing what we deem acceptable. Case in point: the extreme popularity of a film and book series that treats sexual violence as love.

The black and white of it is… sexual violence ≠ love.

Women deserve more than to be seen as sexual objects and to be used for fulfilling sexual fantasies. Women deserve more than to be manipulated and coerced into sexual behavior that is violent and manipulative. Women deserve more than to be held to the standard we have set for them by accepting sexual violence as normal.

Books and films like Fifty Shades of Grey take us back to a time when women didn’t have a voice. It is time for all women to stand up and say no.

Additional article from Advice & Aid on Domestic Violence:
Love Shouldn’t Hurt – Signs of Domestic Violence


If you, or someone you know, thinks that a relationship might be considered violent, it’s important that you get out. Immediately.

At Advice & Aid, we are here to talk with you and be a support system for you if you find yourself faced with a domestic violence situation. We can also provide you with professional counseling referrals and referrals for women to community organizations like Safehome or Rose Brooks.

You are not alone, and there is help through this crisis.

If you need to talk to someone, feel free to call our 24-hour hotline, or make an appointment to see us. It’s a safe, non-judgmental place that can offer you the help you need.

Election – When You Need to Choose More Than A President
Election

Every four years in the United States, we have the opportunity through our election process to exercise our right to vote. It’s a privilege that we sometimes take for granted. And while it is, indeed, a great privilege, it also comes with great responsibilities. We must educate ourselves about all the candidates, the issues, the potential long term effects of those that may end up in office, both for us and our future family.  It is so important that our vote is based on truth, on facts, and not on promises that may or may not be kept. Truly, the quality of our lives and our futures may depend on it.

At first glance, it may seem that the election process has nothing in common with unplanned pregnancy, although it certainly can have great impact on it. The presidential elections come around every four years, and we know exactly when to expect them. An unplanned pregnancy, on the other hand, often shows up when we are least thinking about it.

However, like voting, the decision we make in regards to a pregnancy is something that must be carefully considered. With a pregnancy – planned or unplanned – there are multiple options from which to choose.  Each option can have a great affect on us, our family, and our future family in multiple ways. Deciding which option to choose is not easy. Our decision must be based on truth, on facts, and not on promises that might not ever be fulfilled.

Needing to make a choice – other than the election – right now? Make your first decision the one to check out Advice & Aid. Here you’ll find no rhetoric, no tricks. No promises that can’t be fulfilled. This is simply a place you can trust to receive the help you need. If we had a party platform, it would be this . . . Here for you. Here for your good.

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Stories of women who found hope and help at Advice & Aid:
Molly’s Story
Bethany’s Story

Who Is Giving You Medical Advice?
Who is giving you medical advice

It’s important to know where and from whom you are receiving your medical advice and services. Occasionally, the places that offer advice and even medical services have little formal medical training to support what they do. It’s important that when you need medical services, you look for those clinics that can offer you what you need based on sound medical training and experience. You should settle for nothing less . . . this is your body and your needs. Only the most professional and well-trained should be offering their advice to you!

Here at Advice & Aid Pregnancy Centers, we are committed to offering evidence-based, medical education to all who seek our services. We are able to do that through our Medical Advisory Group consisting of Physicians, Registered Nurses, Nurse Practitioners, Medical Students, and Registered Sonographers who review all medical policies and procedures at our clinic. Our Group is made up of 8 physicians whose specialties include Obstetrics/Gynecology, Family Medicine, Emergency Medicine, and Radiology. There are also many experienced Registered Nurses involved in our Medical Advisory Group with specialized experience in Women’s Health, Obstetrics, Reproductive Endocrinology, Neonatal Intensive Care, Hospice, Telemetry, and Family Medicine. Every pregnancy test and the sonograms that we conduct are performed by specially trained Registered Nurses and Registered Sonographers under the direction and supervision of the Medical Director (OB/GYN) in conjunction with the Nurse Manager (RN/BSN).

All viable options to an unplanned pregnancy (adoption, abortion and parenting) will be presented to each woman or man based on medical information. Medical information given to each and every client is up-to-date and received from the American Congress of Obstetricians & Gynecologists (ACOG), Association of Women’s Health, Obstetric & Neonatal Nurses (AWHONN), and Kansas Department of Health & Environment (KDHE), Missouri Department of Health & Senior Services (MO DHSS), and Centers for Disease Control (CDC), and Mayo Clinic.

Each of our client’s medical information, history and personal experiences are held in the utmost confidence. (Advice & Aid’s Privacy Practices). Confidential exchange of information between client and their client advocate or medical professional is made in trust, and none of that information will be shared or given to any other individual, group or entity without written consent of the client. Our clients are protected from disclosure of information that will violate their right to privacy except where required by law (i.e. child abuse, suicide prevention, etc). Professional ethics require responsibility for maintaining the confidentiality of private information.

We can’t emphasize enough how important it is that the advice and services you receive are of the highest quality, backed by evidence, endorsed and presented by those with the proper medical education, and completely confidential. If you have any questions about where you are currently receiving your care and information, it might be time to look for a place that meets all of these important criteria.

It may be time to ask yourself, “Am I getting the absolute best care and information that I can?”

If the answer is no, consider making a change.
You deserve the absolute best!


Additional articles related to your health & medical information:
Pregnancy Education
Sex Education


If you are interested in talking to someone who has the knowledge and experience that you need, we encourage you to come see us. You don’t even need to call right now . . . simply click on the Appointment button below and you can schedule an appointment online at either of our locations (Shawnee or Overland Park) for the time that best fits your schedule.

Don’t put off talking to someone . . . we have the knowledge and experience that you need. And best of all – we are here just for YOU!

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Advice for Making the Hard Decisions
Making a Decision

“Would you like paper or plastic?”

Sometimes I stand in line at the grocery store and wonder why I even get asked this question. Which is the correct answer? One kills the trees, one sits in a landfill forever. I didn’t want to have to make such environment-impacting decisions . . . I just want my groceries in a bag so that I can take them home.

And what about those times when you desperately need coffee? The questions at the counter at Starbucks seem endless: “Would you like that to be decaf, skinny, nonfat, white, tall, one shot or two?” Seriously? I just want a cup of coffee.

Today I took my daughter to get new eye glasses. There were so many options to choose from, she couldn’t even pick one!

We live in a society where we are surrounded by choices all the time. Sometimes, we think we know what we want in advance. We’ve made up our mind and we go into the situation knowing what choice we are going to make. But suddenly, something interesting happens. Just like my daughter at the eye doctor, we are so taken by the fact that there is more than one option, we start to waver on our decision. Are we making the right choice after all?

The question comes down to this: How do you know what to do when you are facing multiple options on things that matter most?

You pay attention to your heart. You pay attention to your mind. Are these in harmony? Or is your heart saying one option is right, but you are trying to justify a different choice with your mind because it is easier in the short run?

Just as important, are you being pressured by anyone – society, friends, significant other – to make a choice that maybe, deep down, you’re uncomfortable with?

Some decisions can be reversed. Some choices don’t have significant consequences (other than having the jitters because you chose two shots instead of one). But sometimes, your decision today can have lasting impact for years to come. Are you fully at peace with the decision you are making?

Sometimes, making the right choice is so very hard.

But that right choice is so very worth it. We guarantee it.


Are you facing a tough decision with lots of choices? Do you find yourself wavering on the choice you thought you had already made in light of pressure? Sometimes it helps to talk through your choices with a friendly, knowledgeable person.

No pressure. No agenda. Just a friendly face and helpful answers. Come talk to us today.

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