Otherwise known as “Three French Hens, Two Turtle Doves and…an Unplanned Pregnancy?”
An unplanned pregnancy is always a shock. But receiving a positive pregnancy test that you didn’t expect during the time of year when all is supposed to be “merry and bright” can feel even more challenging.
If you’re not ready to share your “news” with anyone yet you may be dreading that crowded family get-together or Friendsgiving feast. Painting on a smile and pretending like everything is fine can be exhausting. Here are a few things to be encouraged by and consider if you find yourself in this situation.
It’s OK to Not be OK
Finding out you are unexpectedly pregnant comes with a rollercoaster of emotions. Worry, fear, uncertainty and stress are common, to name a few. Your body may be in a “fight or flight” type of mode as a way to counteract the stress. Or perhaps you just feel “numb.” All of these feelings can be normal, and it’s okay to feel that way.
It’s important to acknowledge these feelings and know that there is no “normal,” as everyone responds to situations differently. Whether it’s a few days or a week, give yourself time to sit in these feelings. In a way, you may be grieving and grief is a process.
You Don’t Have to Face it Alone
Secrets can be heavy. They can affect our relationships, our careers, and our everyday lives. While it may not be the kind of thing you want to post about on social media, consider confiding in a trusted friend or family member. You might be surprised by the weight that this takes off of you. Explaining that you aren’t necessarily looking for opinions or even advice, but simply need a listening ear may be helpful. Often times, verbalizing your thoughts and feelings can help you process them.
Set Boundaries
If you do join any festivities such as work parties or family get-togethers, it may be helpful to prepare mentally and set a few boundaries for yourself. Know what places, people, and topics you aren’t going to be comfortable around or may be emotionally triggering. While these activities may be a good distraction, you may find that certain personalities or situations make you feel more uncomfortable than usual. Simply excuse yourself and get some fresh air or a change of scenery if needed.
Get Answers to Your Questions
Last, but not least, find out some more information. Questions like “how far along am I?” or “is this baby even going to make it?” may be going through your head. You may be wondering where to go and where you can find a confidential and supportive place to start. Advice & Aid Pregnancy Center is here to provide just that and more.
Our experienced medical staff can help provide you with the medical information you need to move forward being fully educated and informed on your options. Your client advocate is there to provide non-judgemental support. As we do not exist to profit off of you or your decisions, all of our services are free of charge.
If you are having visions of two lines dancing in your head rather than sugar plums, know that Advice & Aid is here for you.
