This young lady has willingly given us permission to share her story so that others can realize there is hope in the midst of a difficult situation. All client experiences with Advice & Aid Pregnancy Centers are kept with the highest confidence. The stories that are shared come from the real-life experiences that our clients, staff and volunteers had during their unplanned pregnancy.
Her name has been removed but her story is true.
Given a second chance
It’s strange to ponder how different my life would have looked if my parents never decided to adopt and it is even more crazy to wonder what the life of my biological mother would have looked like if she had chosen to abort me. My biological mother had many choices to make in 1996. She was a mother of four, had a dysfunctional relationship with my father, and I was not supposed to be in the picture. I can only imagine the confusion, fear, and uncertainty that she faced. And if I were sincere and stood in her shoes, it would be difficult for me to put aside my fears and societal pressures and make a choice. However, my mother chose life. She decided to give me the chance to use my voice, but most importantly she chose selflessness.
There simply are not enough words I could say to thank my biological mother for stepping outside her comfort zone, her plans, and ultimately her fears of having another child. She had a lot going on in her life and was involved in many difficult circumstances. The family she chose for me to be a part of I believe was beyond her wildest imagination. I believe she saw God’s grace and favor poured out on my adoptive family. I was given a chance at life, and there truly is not a day that goes by where I am not grateful to be where I am. I often wonder how I was so fortunate to be born into a home that prioritized the heart of the Father. I believe God created a beautiful space for me to grow up, under a roof that nurtured my future. I know adopting a baby is not for every family, but for the ones who feel the pull to open not just their doors, but their hearts, have an extraordinary calling. It’s not a fast, easy, and pain-free process. My adoptive parents are testimonies that life doesn’t always happen the way it’s supposed to. They tried multiple times to bring life into this world, but God was leading them to discover life through an unfamiliar and unpredictable source. I believe it was the heart of the perfect Father who implemented the desire to search out their future family in a broken, lost, and confused mother.
Hope and joy today
I believe God has a plan for all life and there is not one instance where I was not taken care of. Although it might sound odd to most people, I believe the process of almost being an abortion, but my mother instead choosing life for me, gave my life even more purpose. In this circumstance, I believe it was God’s love that overwhelmed my biological mom, causing her to choose to push all odds aside. I know life after she left that doctor’s office was not a fun or pleasant walk, but she bore through it knowing somewhere inside she was giving birth to something much more than a child. She was giving birth to a child with vision, passion, and motivation to see other lives transformed. I don’t think she recognized that in 1996 and I don’t blame her.
It is hard to look past current circumstances, strongholds, and the lack of security.
But here I am today, 21 years old, and graduating college in the spring. I would not be here without the woman who decided to say “yes” to strangers and rested in hope and a God that takes death and transforms it into life.
I am so thankful.
If you, or someone you know, is facing an unplanned pregnancy, we want you to know that you are not alone as you make choices for both you and your baby. The idea of adoption can be overwhelming. We are here to help.
While Advice & Aid does not handle adoptions personally, we do partner with a number of licensed, fully trusted adoption agencies in our area. We can help you walk through the entire process with one of these recommended agencies so that you are not alone.
Start here – no judgment, no pressure at all. Just someone to talk to who has some truly helpful answers. Someone who wants whats best for you!
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